SEKEN
hai hai guys, gue cape banget siang ini. hectic so so much. jadi sempet dech buka fs bentar…biar ga penaaat.
uda kurang tidur karena ngerjain kerjaan gereja n side job yang nabrak deadlinenya (geez…tom, kita senasib!)
Kemaren gereja gue ( St Yohanes Bosco) buat banyak2 lomba utk memperingati HUT PAROKI. salah satu lombanya, lomba fotografi… yah temanya yah ga jauh2 dengan lingkungan gereja lha ya.
n I won !! yee…ga menang juara 1 sie, juara 2!! seken…. tapi gue cukup seneng, karena yang jadi juri adalah orang-orang dari KOMPAS ( gereja gue keren ya?! luv it).
kumpulin 2 foto siii…tapi gue ngerasa foto ini yang membuat gue menang. Judulnya Nd’erek Gusti Kristus (ikut Kristus Tuhan)- gue foto pas misa Jawa ’satu suro’ di gereja bareng Vincent.
Mmm…dapet piala n dapet kata selamat dari banyak orang.
Hari Minggu kemarin bener2 menyenangkan… Happy Sunday I supposed.
Yeeah, back to work dech…pusiink again guys.
Oiya, ada yang punya hape RIZR ga?? bermasalah ga yaa? secara tuh HApe masih baru n belom banyak yg punya… just fullfiling my curiosity. kalo tahu, infonya pwuuiz…arigato gozaimasooo !! (>o<)/
before you say ” I do “
Hellow guys, akhir2 ini gue dengan orang2 kantor terus membicarakan topik ‘marriage’. secara miss Oyen- tangan kanan bos besar akan melangsungkan pernikahannya tengah tahun ini dan Petot yang juga entah kenapa secara tiba2 ‘juga mau menikah’.
Sadar ga si guys, kalo kita (’specially ce)sudah ter doktrin dengan pemikiran masyarakat yang kalo sudah mau kepala 3 seharusnya-sebaiknya-semestinya-sepantasnya-seyogyanya- itu menikah-punya anak-membangun keluarga bahagia sentosa aman rukun adil sejahtera riang tralalala. Ask yourself : Is s/he the one for me ?
Nich tips2nya guys! untuk menjadi tolak ukur kalian dalam menentukan pasangan hidup yang ’seharusnya’ sampai maut memisahkan.
9 ways marrying the wrong person
part 1 (jadi ga semuanya gue tulis yee..biar penasaran.)
1. you pick the wrong person because U expect him/her to change after U’re married. The classic mistake ; Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if U can’t be happy with the person the way he/she is now, don’t get married. So when it comes to the other spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills & personal habits… make sure U can live with these as they’re now.
2. U pick the wrong person coz U focus more on chemistry that on character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the " I’m in love " syndrome. " I’m in love " often means, " I’m in lust ". Attraction is there, but have U carefully checked out this person’s character?
Here’re 4 character traits to definately check for:
Humility : Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort? Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him/her?
Kindness : Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people ? How does she/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to?
Responsibility : Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do?
Happiness : Does this person like her/him self? Does s/he enjoy life ?
3. U pick the wrong person coz the man doesn’t understand what a woman needs most. Men and woman have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it’s the man who just doesn’t "get it" . The unique need of woman is to be loved- to feel that she’s the most important person in her husband’s life. Men are goal -oriented, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds; on and off," woman are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears & become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs & focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
4. U choose the wrong person coz U don’t share a common life goals & prorities. Ther’re 3 basic ways connect with another person:
- chemistry and compatibility
- Share common interests
- Share common life goal
A soul mate is a goal mate- two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.
5. U pick the wrong the person coz U don’t hav a deeper emotional connection with this person. Ask this : "Do I respect and admire this person?"
This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?"
We’re impressed by a Mercedez, we don’t respect someone coz they own a Mercedez. U should also ask, "Is s/he emotionally stable? Do I can rely on him/her?"
6. U pick the wrong person coz U choose someone with whom U don’t feel emotionally safe. Ask Urself the following questions, " Do I feel calm, peaceful & relaxed with this person? Can I fully express my self w/ this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself?"
Make sure the person U marry makes U feel the same way! R U afraid of this person in any way?
U should not feel U need to monitor what U say coz U’re afraid of how the other person will view it. If U’re afraid to express ur feeling and opinions openly, there’s a problem w/ the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who’s always trying to change U. Controlling behaviours are a sign of an abusive person. There’s a big difference between controlling * "making suggestions". A suggestion is made for Ur benefit; A control statement is made for their benefit.
Phuuahh…6 of nine. think cleary guys before U take the next step.
Jadi inget cerita lucu tentang "siapa" ala ce.
ce SMA = " siapa luu ?!"
ce kuliah = " siapa yaaa ?"
ce kerja = "siapa ajah deh!"
oh ya…ditunggu komennya, specially all my frens yang mau married nor yang uda married.
XOXO
